Make It Happen!!

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.” - George Bernard Shaw

Words of Power

The difference between a dangerous spell—um, I mean goal—and a safe, effective one has everything to do with parts of speech. Most goal setters use mainly nouns and verbs ("I want my business to succeed," "I want to have a baby"). This frequently leads to either outright failure or the kind of success that doesn't make people nearly as happy as they expect. But there's another class of words that work much better—adjectives.

I've come to depend on adjectives because goals made of nouns and verbs are risky: They bring to mind "imagined situations," as opposed to "imagined experiences." The two are subtly but crucially different, and experiences, not situations, are always what we really want. Ilsa expected business success to produce feelings of contentment; Sue thought a baby would make her feel loved. Neither fully anticipated what would happen after they achieved their goals.

By using adjectives, you can avoid this trap by focusing all your efforts on the quality of the experience you want to create. This process is harder than "normal" goal setting—it requires some serious soul-searching and perhaps a good thesaurus—but it does pay off. -

Read more.... http://www.oprah.com/spirit/goal-setting-strategies-from-life-coach-martha-beck

Accurate Self-Assessment

Accurate Self Assessment: an inner awareness of your strengths and limitations

• Are you reflective, do you learn from experience?
• Do you know your own capabilities; what you can and can’t do, your strengths and weaknesses?
• Are you open to candid feedback, new perspectives, continuous learning, and self development?
• Do you ask for help from others who might have more experience, knowledge, or ability?
• Are you able to identify and target your needs for improvement and change?
• Do you have a desire to learn and grow?

Personal Power

Personal Power: a sense of self-confidence and an inner knowing that you can meet life’s challenges and live the life you choose

• Do you have a good sense of who you are and your ability to get what you want?
• Do you believe that you can set the direction of your life, and do?
• Are you able to distinguish between things you have control over in life and those that you don’t; do you avoid stressing over the former?